Choosing a Life That Feeds Your Soul

Moving beyond “fine” toward a life that actually nourishes you.

Many of us move through life responding to what’s in front of us, and we rarely pause long enough to ask whether it truly nourishes us. We learn how to be responsible, productive, and capable—but not always how to recognize what feeds our souls.

Over time, this quiet disconnection can leave us feeling tired, uninspired, or subtly out of alignment with our own lives. Not because we’ve failed, but because we’ve been shaped by expectations that never asked us to listen inward.

Choosing a life that feeds your soul begins when you turn toward yourself with curiosity instead of judgment, and allow desire to become information rather than indulgence. Many people reach this point when they feel unfulfilled, burned out, or disconnected—even when nothing in their life looks “wrong” on the surface.

Living by Default vs. Choosing What Feeds You

If you’ve heard anything about the Law of Attraction, you may have heard about being the deliberate creator of your life. This concept says we can create the life we desire, either consciously or unconsciously. Most of us create unconsciously. Letting life happen to us, doing and living how we’re “supposed” to be or do. These limiting beliefs constrain our lives, especially for women.

But how often do you stop to consider what you actually want? What makes your heart sing and feeds your soul?

If you’ve never considered this before, it seems almost impossible to even imagine what you want, let alone receiving it or being it. All you can see are the limits placed on you by conditioning and society—and the limits you’ve accepted as true. You may not even know what you DO want or what makes you happy.

But you’re not alone. We all go through this as we begin expanding into our fullness and pushing against our past limiting beliefs and ways of doing things.

When the Life You’re Living No Longer Fits

This tension between who we’re taught to be and who we feel called to become has shaped my own life in profound ways.

I’ve always wanted to be a writer, ever since I wrote my first story in third grade. But it wasn’t an “acceptable” job. I was told I couldn’t make money doing it. I also wanted my own business and experienced derision from my parents for even wanting one because they’d failed at it. So instead, I studied accounting in college and became a Certified Public Accountant (CPA).

While I was good at it, it wasn’t something I loved. I built a small business with a few clients, but the conditioning of my parents that you had to have a “job” kept it from expanding. One of my clients offered me a job as their Chief Financial Officer (CFO), and I accepted it—knowing it wasn’t what I wanted. By then, I’d given up my dream of being a writer, only writing as a hobby.

I should have been happy being the CFO of a multinational company. I held a prestigious job, and my parents were proud of me. Instead, I was deeply unhappy, and I felt like I was dying inside because it didn’t feed my soul. I finally quit that job.

When I did, I was so broken that I didn’t know what I wanted or believed I deserved. My only certainty was that I hated doing accounting and didn’t want to do it again. I wanted to find what I loved, fed my soul, and provided me a good living.

What I didn’t yet understand was that before I could create a life that truly fit me, I had to first know—clearly and honestly—what I wanted.

Before you can deliberately, consciously create the life you desire, you must know what it is you want.

How Contrast Helps You Clarify What You Want

Sometimes, it’s much easier to know what we don’t want than what we do. And that is okay, and even good. It provides contrast! Contrast is how clarity begins, often in ordinary, everyday moments. As you gain more clarity on what doesn’t make you happy or don’t like doing, you begin asking yourself what you do want or like.

This doesn’t just apply to the big things in life, such as work, but to the small things too. Thriving includes what foods you enjoy and the types of books you enjoy reading.

You may have experienced wanting a new car, but you’re unsure what you want. When you make that decision, you find yourself looking at the cars around you as you drive, and noticing what you don’t like. You may say, “No, I don’t want a truck.” Now you notice just cars, almost as if the trucks don’t exist any longer. And you start picking out the ones you don’t like—no, I don’t want a Toyota, or no, not a Tesla—and the ones you do. Suddenly, everywhere you look, you see blue Mazdas.

This contrast works for everything in your life, including your ideal life. And yet, many of us never take the next step: giving ourselves permission to imagine what we actually want.

Have you ever asked yourself or given yourself permission to imagine or dream what your life would be like if you were “Living In Thrival?” If you were thriving, not just getting by, what work would you be doing? Where would you live? What type of house? How would your day flow if you could do anything, be anything, you desired?

The Subtle Shift from Imagining to Becoming

When we allow ourselves to imagine freely, something subtle but powerful begins to happen. We begin working toward manifesting it. Our subconscious minds search for ways to manifest it, filtering out what we don’t want so we’re more able to see what we do. Just as we start seeing blue Mazdas everywhere, we start seeing opportunities we never considered before. New ideas pop into our consciousness, or we meet someone who models what we want to do.

Each time we notice these and make decisions and choices, we move closer to our ideal, or we discover it isn’t for us and we make a new choice. This is where conscious creation becomes self-empowerment rather than wishful thinking.

True freedom and empowerment comes from choosing what brings us happiness, feeds our souls, and allows us to thrive. This kind of clarity is the foundation of a spiritually aligned life. But we must know what those are first.

In moving from day-to-day, we tend to just accept what comes to us. We don’t stop our doing to consider what our ideal life and lifestyle are. Through the Law of Attraction, once we are clear and aligned with our desired lifestyle, we will then see it manifesting in our lives. For me, this understanding had to become something I lived, not just something I believed.

I love starting my day, before I even get out of bed, imagining my ideal life and what I want. This starts my day in a positive place and reinforces what I want in my subconscious mind. Since doing this, my life has drastically changed.

I’m not going to lie; sometimes, those changes don’t seem like you’re moving forward, but each of my experiences has brought me closer to my ideal life. They gave me the contrast I needed to gain greater clarity. In exploring all the things I “could” do for my work, I discovered what I didn’t want. Each experiment refined that ‘no,’ leading me closer to my “Yes, this is it!”

A Spiritual Practice for Imagining Your Ideal Life

It took me years, but I’ve finally accepted what I did want to do. I desire to write fantasy stories, to write self-improvement and spiritual essays, to write about and teach about the Goddess. Doing this work fills me with joy and feeds my soul.

What I’ve learned through this process is something anyone can do, in their own way and in their own time.

I invite you to take a few minutes, even a few hours or days, to contemplate and daydream about your ideal life and lifestyle. Start by reflecting on all the areas of your life and how they would appear and feel if you were thriving and had all you desired in them.

Consider your:

• Work and career—how you make/flow money
• Finances—how you feel about money and how much you possess
• Family—the people you love, both blood and found-family
• Relationships—with friends and co-workers
• Physical—activity and health
• Creativity and fun—what do you enjoy doing
• Community—where you live and where you’re accepted
• Spirituality—how you connect with Goddess/Universe/Source.

Imagine how each of these aspects of life fits together in the grand mosaic that forms your life.

Begin with Curiosity, Not Answers

To get you started, here are some questions to ask yourself to help you in discovering your ideal life and lifestyle. There is no wrong answer, just YOUR answer. Remember, this is your ideal, not your lover’s or mate’s, and not your parents’. You may want or need to experiment as ideas or thoughts come into your awareness to discover exactly what is right for you.

Below are two methods to help you in this process.

1. Simply ponder these questions, letting the answers percolate to the surface of your mind.
2. Use these questions as journal prompts to delve more deeply into yourself and who you truly are.

Either method you choose, consider your answers in as much detail as possible. As you consider what your ideal is, you may first think about the many things you don’t want. This contrast gives you clues about what you do want. For example, if you find yourself thinking or saying, “I don’t want to live in an apartment,” that’s good. Now you know not to look for an apartment. This isn’t your ideal place to live.

Questions to Gently Guide Your Exploration

• When do I feel most alive and deeply myself?
• How does my ideal life look and feel from the inside out?
• In my ideal life, how do I move through an average day?
• How do I most desire to spend my time and energy?
• Which of my core values feel essential to who I am becoming?
• What do I truly need in order to feel happy, supported, and thriving?
• Which desires feel nourishing but not strictly necessary?
• What lifestyle feels most aligned with who I am?
• Which kinds of work bring me fulfillment, meaning, and joy?
• Who do I want to share my time, energy, and life with?
• What type of community do I long to belong to?
• How do I most enjoy play, rest, and pleasure?
• In what ways do I feel called to express my creativity?

Ideal Life Script

Once your vision begins to take shape, a powerful way to anchor it more deeply into your daily life is to turn it into a script.

You can read it to yourself, preferably out loud. If you are more auditory, you could record your script and listen to it. Or if you’re more visual, create a mind movie to watch with images that represent your ideal life.

Write or create your script as if you’re moving through your ideal day in present tense, in as much detail as possible. Imagine if you were watching a video of yourself for a day, or several days.

Include such things as:

• What you see
• What you’re doing for fun
• Who you’re talking to
• What you’re eating
• Where you live, the area and type of housing
• Work you’re doing
• What you’re doing spiritually
• What emotions you’re experiencing
• Anything else that makes this real and right for you

This script reinforces to both your conscious and subconscious minds what you want and desire to have, do, and be. The shift happens when you feel this as real, when it becomes more than wishful thinking, but something that is in your energy. Now, it’s only a matter of everything falling into place. Some pieces will happen quickly, while others may take longer. These usually require other people and situations to come into alignment with you.

Over time, this practice shifts your relationship with your dreams—from distant hopes to living orientation points.

Living in Relationship with What Feeds You

Choosing a life that feeds your soul isn’t a single decision or a fixed destination. It’s an ongoing relationship with yourself—one that deepens as you learn to recognize what nourishes you and what quietly drains you.

When you allow desire to guide you, even in small ways, your life begins to orient itself differently. You start noticing what fits and what doesn’t. You make choices with more clarity and less self-betrayal. What once felt like wishful thinking becomes your guiding light.

You don’t need to have everything figured out to begin. You only need a willingness to listen, to imagine, and to trust that what feeds your soul isn’t asking too much of you. You’re coming home to yourself.

Before you close this page, I invite you to take a moment to notice what stayed with you.

Is there a question that’s lingering? An image or possibility that’s softening something inside you? A quiet sense of recognition—“oh, that matters to me?”

You don’t need to answer or act on any of it right now. Simply noticing is enough. What feeds your soul often begins as a feeling before it becomes a choice.

I invite you to join the conversation on my Substack, Lunar Ink & Alchemy, to share your experience and insights from doing this exercise.